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Que Sera Sera

April 22, 2016

Remember in high school, when the boy or girl you had a crush on had seemingly no awareness of your existence, but the people you hardly gave a thought to, were in love with you?  Well that’s what it’s like on dating websites.  Except now, there’s the exciting option of being scammed, which adds just the right touch of mystery and intrigue.

I’m learning new things about myself every day. I am apparently unbelievably attractive to large, scary men with tattoos and motorcycles. Who knew I had it in me?

On Plenty of Fish, the site I’m on, you can either post your photo like bait and wait for your tattooed fish to come along, or you can go fishing yourself. (This literally takes hours, which I do not have.)   There’s also a page, where you just go through photo after photo and decide whether someone is a yes, no, or a maybe. I usually go through as many photos as I can in 15 minutes (that’s as long as I last without wanting to gouge my own eyeballs out) to try and find one or two guys who don’t look like serial killers, then I check their profile to see if we have anything at all in common.

I’ve gotten gutsy and written to a few. One even responded back and we had a nice phone conversation this afternoon. Sadly, I was never able to track down the circus clown guy, but I’ve found a few others who seem interesting.  One guy who I wrote to, simply deleted my email and never even responded to me – ouch. I felt bad about it for a minute then realized, I’ve done that to quite a few of my tattooed biker friends, so I guess that’s just the way it goes. Although, if someone goes to the trouble to write something more than just , “Hey baby,” I will, at least, respond with a thank you because that’s polite.

And I’m learning so much about the world. I’ve learned that men with bad grammar, who claim to be European, who want to email via their private email instead of on the site, who fall in love with you within two messages, then mysteriously have to leave the country, are scammers who only want your money.  I’m growing up so fast.

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Same dorky smile plus 43 years.


Most important, I’ve learned not to have expectations, which is the good thing about doing this as a 60-year-old.


Que sera, sera.

Que sera, sera by Doris Day on YouTube




  • Reply
    May 4, 2016 at 8:04 pm

    As we discussed earlier today, you are in a GREAT relationship with yourself right now. Let it happen organically. Maybe the next time you are almost arrested you’ll find true love. Love you!

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    April 30, 2016 at 7:46 am

    That was supposed to say *GOOD* brother, Bernie. Sorry 🙂

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    April 30, 2016 at 7:45 am

    Bernie, you are a goof brother!
    Fran, Martin and I are on the case – plus, since all your brothers are back home, they have to pass through to be sure they’re good enough for you xo

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      Fran Tunno
      April 30, 2016 at 9:21 pm

      Thank goodness someone has my back. I’m counting on you guys!

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    Bob Erbeck
    April 22, 2016 at 11:27 am


    I’ve been there, done that! Ugh!! I was with POF for a couple of years and kept getting e-mail notices from all over, but unfortunately most of the e-mails were from ladies who looked twenty years my senior . . . and I do mean “senior.” I would peruse the profiles, but never made a contact with anyone. It was a free service but, all of a sudden, a year or so ago they started to charge before I could even open someone’s profile to find out if I might be interested or not. I gave up and decided to just quit and remove my profile altogether. Apparently they won’t let you delete your profile, so I’m still getting e-mails from who-knows-who every few weeks, which I just delete without even opening them. 🙁

    On another subject, I used to have my photo on my profile with Gravatar or, which used to show up next to the “Liked” button after I’ve read your blog. I tried to change the picture a couple of weeks ago to a head shot of me while I was in Vietnam, but it never did appear. I tried again today to put a Bitmoji avatar, but nothing shows up now. Maybe I need to install more memory in my brain; it hasn’t had an upgrade for quite some time.

    Have a good weekend,

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      Fran Tunno
      April 22, 2016 at 4:51 pm

      Wow Bob, Good to know!
      Thanks for the vote of confidence. I will keep looking and stay active, that’s how you meet the best people. Thanks for the info and good luck to you too!

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    Chas Madonio
    April 22, 2016 at 10:57 am

    You can do better than these “loser hotline” dating sites. Except for good material for your blog, most of the guys you’ll meet here are either desperate zeros or they’re in a witness protection program. And when you try to compare them to your handsome and personable brothers, they all pale. I’m sure you’ll eventually meet the right guy, and it will probably be in a way you’ll expect it.

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      Fran Tunno
      April 22, 2016 at 4:50 pm

      Well Chas, it’s true, who can compare with my brothers, except maybe you? And you’re taken! I’ll keep my eyes open. You never know!

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    April 22, 2016 at 8:17 am

    I just sent you a case of wine so you can be schlotzed when you read these.

    From: At Frans Table To: Sent: Friday, April 22, 2016 8:25 AM Subject: [New post] Que Sera Sera #yiv8478612556 a:hover {color:red;}#yiv8478612556 a {text-decoration:none;color:#0088cc;}#yiv8478612556 a.yiv8478612556primaryactionlink:link, #yiv8478612556 a.yiv8478612556primaryactionlink:visited {background-color:#2585B2;color:#fff;}#yiv8478612556 a.yiv8478612556primaryactionlink:hover, #yiv8478612556 a.yiv8478612556primaryactionlink:active {background-color:#11729E;color:#fff;}#yiv8478612556 | Fran Tunno posted: “Remember in high school, when the boy or girl you had a crush on had seemingly no awareness of your existence, but the people you hardly gave a thought to, were in love with you?  Well that’s what it’s like on dating websites.  Except now, there’s the exc” | |

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      Fran Tunno
      April 22, 2016 at 4:49 pm

      Thanks Bern!!! Just in time! Thank God for good brothers. xoxo

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