A friend of mine sent me a link to a website where a woman talks about growing older gracefully now that she’s in her 60’s. God bless her, God bless anyone who can be graceful about growing older…I just don’t happen to be one of them.
I look in the mirror and pull my cheeks up a little and think, Yeah, that’s how I should look. But you can’t walk around looking like Macaulay Culkin in Home Alone all the time, so I just dealt with it.
But it does a number on you. I just didn’t feel cute anymore, and when you don’t feel cute, you’re less outgoing because you feel like no one will respond. This was quietly reinforced by the fact that I seem to have turned invisible sometime in my 50’s.
I remember quite vividly when I noticed my new invisibility.
I’d walked blocks and blocks down Broadway in New York City and not one person noticed me. Not one! I could have robbed a bank and totally gotten away with it. That was really sobering for me. It was the first time I realized I was getting older.
I wish I was more like those women who can just let their hair turn gray and be cool with it. I’m not. Or the ones who smile and say, “I’ve earned every one of these wrinkles.”
No, I’m the woman, who when she accidentally sees her own face in the camera of her phone, screams, “Aaaaaah!” as if a monster has been sighted.
I’ve earned my wrinkles too, but I’m very happy to let go of some of them, which is why I decided to go ahead and have the Liftique procedure. Liftique is a non-surgical, procedure that can help you look a little younger by stimulating the collagen under your skin, so your skin looks lifted and a little tighter.
I found out about it because Liftique advertises on the radio stations owned by the company I work for. I write their commercials and, apparently I’m so good, I convinced myself. The more I wrote about it, the more I thought…hmmmmm, wonder if I should do this?
I finally decided it was a good idea, so I took the plunge and had it done over President’s Day weekend. I did it on a Thursday afternoon and was back at work the following Tuesday. Aside from a tiny bit of bruising that I hid with make-up, no one even knew.
I told a few people, but the lid got blown off when Liftique asked me to do a testimonial for them, which turned into a commercial, which apparently runs incessantly here in Los Angeles because all my friends have called me about it. So, I figured it was time to just tell everybody and post a link to it. Why not?
Am I glad I did it? Yeah, I am. It left me feeling better about my neck, which was starting to look too much like the scarecrow’s in the Wizard of Oz. And when you feel better, you’re a little friendlier, a little more outgoing and a little more fun. And when you’re single and in your 60’s, you need all the help you can get.
When I was in my 20’s, I never thought I’d do something like have surgery or any kind of procedure, but that changed after I worked in a plastic surgeon’s office. I saw people come in the door, self conscious — and leave a totally different person. The surgery changed them slightly on the outside, but the biggest difference was clearly on the inside.
And I think anything that can give a person back her or his confidence, is ultimately a good thing.
Kim MillsOctober 14, 2018 at 6:46 pm
Fran – I applaud you for having the courage to write this entry! I had Liftique done, too – a couple of years ago – for the EXACT reasons that you’ve written about. At first I didn’t want anyone to know about it, but that “secret” lid was blown off very quickly (as you might imagine because CERTAIN people like to talk). LOL I say “hey – I feel better about mirrors and I don’t need to wear turtleneck sweaters and scarves anymore – so there!”. And I think that you look absolutely mahhhvelous! xoxoxo
Fran TunnoOctober 16, 2018 at 3:50 pm
Oh My God Kim, I am so thrilled you responded to this for so many reasons. Thank you for reading and taking the time to respond so openly! That man DOES have excellent taste in women! And yes, I totally get that whole blown secret thing. I still wear turtlenecks and scarves, but I’m not afraid to go without them too now. Next time we’re together we can take an after pic and send it to my friends at Liftique!!! You rock.
Mary J. TunnoOctober 8, 2018 at 12:30 pm
There is “Nothing” wrong with wanting to look good. If people look or talk behind one’s back about it, it’s jealousy and “their” problem. What people do is their business. If there is a will & a way, why not? Rock on, Fran!!
Fran TunnoOctober 8, 2018 at 1:52 pm
Thanks for the moral support Mare! xo
Chas MadonioOctober 8, 2018 at 9:03 am
Dos Liftique have any type of treatment for shrinking a big stomach? I was always the skinniest kid on the block, and even into my 50’s and early 60’s I could suck in my gut so far, you could count my ribs. Then, one morning, I woke up with a fat stomach, and no matter what I do, I can’t get rid of it. You need to post a picture so we can see how great you look!
Fran TunnoOctober 12, 2018 at 2:06 pm
You are too funny Chas. I know you can get liposuction. And LIftique does have a procedure they do on stomachs, You’d have to come to LA. You know I’d host you!
Petrea BurchardOctober 6, 2018 at 6:04 pm
I know the feeling of pulling up my skin to see the me I recognize. Oh and the phone camera is the worst!
Fran TunnoOctober 6, 2018 at 11:34 pm
Ah Petrea! knew someone would identify. I actually met a woman today who said she tried taping her face, but it didn’t work. Gotta admire her ingenuity though!
Jane DeutschmannOctober 6, 2018 at 8:35 am
Hey Fran, Good for You!! Love that you are young at heart all the time, no need to grow old gracefully! Time to fess up that two years ago I had Juvederm and Botox done when my son-in-law’s dermatology office needed two subjects to work on. Daughter Jennifer had her lips done that day as well. I thought it was great! Would do it again. A few years ago I had the tiny spider veins around my nose & chin removed. That I would not do again….too much bruising.
XXOO cousin Jane
Fran TunnoOctober 6, 2018 at 11:33 pm
Excellent! I figure we are doing a service for anyone out there who is considering a procedure! Glad you feel confident enough to talk about it. And now that I realize your son-in-law’s in a Dermatology office, I may need to schedule a trip to Florida sooner than later!xoxox
Mrs. IreneOctober 6, 2018 at 7:07 am
I’ve as always thought you were beautiful, and should be in commercials!
Congrats on being discovered 😉
Fran TunnoOctober 6, 2018 at 7:30 am
Thank you Irene, you are a sweetheart!