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Sleeping in Seattle

October 18, 2019

When you become a mom, you moan almost daily about the mess your kids make. Then they go to college and come back during holidays, leaving a mess, but are finally so grateful for your cooking, you totally forgive them. Then they move back after graduation, become your friend, resume the mess, wonder what to do, then tell you they’re moving to Seattle.

Then they actually have the audacity to leave.

I finally understand how my parents felt when I pulled out of their driveway, also in October. A friend and I drove my dad’s 1971 Chevy with 100,000 miles on it, to California. My mom cried for months before I left, until she realized she could visit and finally see the Price is Right. She was appeased and, I think, secretly thrilled for me.

And what do I do, now that all my cleanliness wishes have been granted? I miss her. I do things like wander through her room and marvel at hardwood floors hidden under piles of clothes for years. I look at the huge pile of stuff I’m going to have to take to Goodwill, briefly fantasize about strangling her, and miss her again. Then I wonder what she’s doing at that very moment.

Cool sculpture garden

I followed my daughter to Seattle in a van filled with all her stuff and I’m thrilled for her too. It’s a totally cool city that reminded me of Pittsburgh. It has hills, trees, interesting sculptures, even a troll under an overpass, and a slightly industrial vibe, with people who really seem to care about the environment.

And it rains! For Californians starved of any noticeable weather for months on end, rain is a thrill. Jackets, sweaters, scarves, boots, a cozy corner where a girl can read a book, lovely roommates, two snuggly cats, and a sweet boyfriend who’s always there for you, are a thrill too. Plus a fantastic Cuban restaurant within walking distance, scrumptious Thai food, and great coffee everywhere! I think she’s going to love it there, once she’s done sleeping. She was completely exhausted.

And I’m excited for her to start her new life. It was rough going, just trying to leave L.A. We got a late start, then tried for four hours to get to our freeway which was closed because of fires. Traffic was ridiculous.

Milena and Dado(a friend since Junior high)in her car, and me in mine, sang ourselves hoarse just to stay awake. We had to deal with a jerk hotel operator at 4 am, then a wonderful man at another hotel who made us forget all about the jerk. Then she had a flat on the freeway in Oregon, which was how we met a nice cop and a lovely man working at a tire store, with a daughter my daughter’s age. He got some better tires on her car that got her safely to Seattle.

Milena and Dado enjoying the fall
Snuggly cats

That’s how life is. Sometimes what seem like curses take you straight to blessings filled with wonderful moments and people. Here’s to everyone out there, trying new places and doing things. Embrace it all, you never know what happiness even the not so great moments can lead to.

  • Reply
    Chas Madonio
    October 22, 2019 at 12:18 pm

    Touching sentiments. It’s always sad when the little birdies fly away from the nest, but it also means new frontier and exciting adventures. And Seattle is a terrific town.

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      Fran Tunno
      October 24, 2019 at 8:43 am

      I did love Seatte, the people were very friendly and there are actual seasons! I hope my daughter adjusts to the rain. She was born and raised in sunny California, so it may be a challenge. But I love it, so I’ll be visiting! I’m looking forward to the exciting adventures!

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    October 19, 2019 at 9:01 am

    Al and I just went to Seattle to visit a cousin. It was my first time there. I loved it. We wish your daughter well there and may you have many visits there. Sometimes there are some great airfares there! And I will see you next week!

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      Fran Tunno
      October 19, 2019 at 1:38 pm

      Thanks Marianne, I’m looking forward to seeing you. I did love it there and definitely plan to visit again, and again. Thanks for writing. Next time you go, let me know, we can coordinate a visit! xoxo See you soon.

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    Rob Sprogell
    October 19, 2019 at 8:40 am

    Dawn and I love Seattle for its dahlias❤️

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      Fran Tunno
      October 19, 2019 at 1:36 pm

      Milena bought a beautiful bouquet of flowers for her room and there might have been dahlia’s in there…not sure. But it was gorgeous and for 10 bucks, it was huge. Another reason to love Seattle. I will be back.

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    Julia Shure
    October 18, 2019 at 1:51 pm

    Congrats, Fran! Seattle IS a cool place and now you can visit. Stop and see me on the way.
    I moved across the country to California in October, too!

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      Fran Tunno
      October 18, 2019 at 2:44 pm

      How funny, I never knew that Julia. Did you leave in 1981 too? I doubt that I will be driving up there any time again, in the near future, but would love to come up to your parts and visit. Maybe in the new year, I’ll do a bit more traveling. Must get a new car first. Thanks for always reading and taking the time to respond! xoxo

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    Fran Tunno
    October 18, 2019 at 12:47 pm

    Oh Stevie, I am sad for LA because it was such a great place when I got here. But, I get it and think it IS a smart move to Seattle. I hope you land somewhere that you love too!

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    Stevie S.
    October 18, 2019 at 9:32 am

    One Smart Move, literally. Seattle Rocks and is a healthy place to live. Los Angeles has become a bloody cesspool where one is subjected to Disease, Filth and Demise. ‘Five homicides a day in So. Cal?’ Who wants that?

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